“An anthropologist proposed a game to children in an african tribe. He put a basket full of fruit near a tree and told the children that whoever got there first won the sweet fruits. When he told them to run, they all took eachothers hands and ran together, then sat together enjoying their treats.
When he asked them why they had run like that when one could have had all the fruits for himself, they said ‘UBUNTU, how can one of us be happy if all the others are sad?’ (‘UBUNTU’ in the Xhosa culture means: ‘I am because we are)”
Literally the opposite of the American world view of “I can only be happy if somebody else has less than me”
This is beautiful
I love this. :)
So he left you without any goodbye or with some petty reason that you deserve better or he might hurt you further if you guys kept it going. Or maybe he found someone who would let him kiss her in ways that you couldn’t. Maybe he thinks you could not love him enough to make him stay. The reasons do not matter anymore. All that you could ever think about is that he left you even if he told you for a lot of times that he loves you or he would stay with you through it all. He didn’t stay and that’s what you should should keep embedded inside your head every time.
So maybe right now you are spending nights wide awake as you grieve about everything that you could ever be with him. All the promises that were never fulfilled, all the plans that would never be done, all the memories that you shared, all that you think would last for as long as you wanted it to be. Maybe you are still asking him to come back. Maybe you are crying while listening to that song that he dedicated for you. Maybe you are writing piles of poetry that regards him as a drug that poisoned you or someone who planted flowers on your lungs, you could not breathe. But all these moments would not matter anymore.
Darling, I hate to break it to you but you are just wasting your time. You are allowed to miss him. You are allowed to be sad about it You are allowed to feel every emotion because those feelings are yours to feel and those memories are yours to reminisce. But then you are not allowed to throw your life just because someone chose to walk out of your life. You are not allowed to be so miserable just because someone thought that it is not worth being with you anymore. You are not allowed to stop your life and to destroy your future just because you keep on wanting to take something from the past.
Maybe he misses you too. Maybe there are nights that he still thinks of you as he regrets hurting you. Maybe there was a time when he smelled your perfume and he thought of your sweet smile. Maybe he still loves you. Maybe he wants you back. But then it doesn’t matter anymore because he is not doing anything about it. So don’t dwell on this possibility. Stop chaining yourself into memories that would only mess up with how your life would turn out in years to come.
Ten years from now, you would hear his name and you would not flinch. You would not even feel his kisses on your lips. You would not even remember his voice when he told you he loves you for the first time. He would just be a memory gently whispering to your ears. A reminder that once in your life, you thought you found someone who could show you what true love is but it turned out that he just bears a lesson that you have to learn.
Maybe someday, you would see him again and you won’t even feel your heart beating fast in the sight of his face. You would smile at him because he is a great part of your past that made you who you are as of the moment.
So he left you and now you are sad about it but don’t you ever doubt love just because it didn’t last. Don’t stop your world from spinning just because someone walked out from it. Rejoice. Go out. Live your life and be ready to face what it is to come.
HAHAHAHAY Dafuq talaga.